Heal the Past
April 4, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Relationships
This is the third post (part 1, part 2) on how success and productivity can be stymied by emotional reactiveness.
“Our deepest fears are like dragons guarding our deepest treasure”. Rainier Maria Rilke
I was playing for my local soccer team one Sunday morning some years ago. During the game a few things had not gone our way, and I found myself blaming the referee for our shortcomings. As we were leaving the field I went over to the referee (who was only doing it as a favour) and abused him. Among the words I threw at him were “useless”, “incompetent”, “weak” and well, you don’t really want to know the rest. But, I’m sure you get the idea.
My Fault
Almost immediately after this outburst I felt a great deal of guilt and apologized profusely to him and the other players, but it was some years later when I recalled the incident that I applied the mirror to it. No surprises here, but it is a good snapshot of how I viewed myself at the time.
My failure was to not accept responsibility and understand that the result of the game was really in my hands and those of my teammates, not in his. My eagerness to pass judgment on him was really a way of blinding me to my own perceived faults.
One of the ways to heal the past is to follow this simple process:
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Locate or remember a time in your business, work or socially someone or something upset you
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Observe what it was about that person or situation that you did not like
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Write your thoughts down, i.e. he or she was selfish, arrogant, and ignorant and so on.
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Consider what it was about the situation that you were resisting.
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Go through each of the items you have written down one at a time, honestly look at yourself and see if any of them may apply to , now or in the past. You may see yourself as sometimes selfish for instance.
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As soon as you realise that the part of him or her you don’t like is exactly what you don’t like about that part of yourself, take another look. Do you still feel the same way? The simple act of acknowledging something you were not consciously aware of is part of the healing process.
Different Point of View
Looking at it now, this does not mean that I just changed the point of blame on to me so I could be even harder on myself.
It became an opportunity to understand myself better. After all, if my feelings towards him could suddenly disappear due to this realization, then maybe I could do the same for the feelings I had for myself.
It gave me hope.
If you see yourself in any of this and would like some help, give me a call on 0421 210 444 to arrange a Free, No Obligation 30 minute chat to see how we can work together.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
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Perseverance and Productivity
April 1, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Motivation, Productivity
Hi, I’ve often pondered on the tiny difference there can be between winning and losing, especially in sport. This video demonstrates in a very clear and motivating way how small differences can have a huge effect on outcomes.
If you want to get that little bit more from yourself, call James on
0421 210 444 NOW!
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Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
Negative Beliefs
March 23, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Relationships
Following on from my previous post, “Lightbulb Moment”, examining how success and productivity can be stymied by emotional reactivity.
“The highest form of maturity is self inquiry”. Martin Luther King Jr.
As I continued observing myself during and after times of stress and upset, it reconfirmed what I had learned already. All upsets were an opportunity to learn the truth about me.
Many people won’t look at themselves, maybe because they’re scared of what they may find out.
Angry Man
I worked with a man some years ago who was very angry – he seemed to carry a chip on his shoulder. His whole world view was based on the belief that nobody can be trusted; it’s every man for himself and that people will cheat you if they get a chance. As a result of this belief he attracted the sort of people who lived up to that expectation – very much a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The trouble was that he didn’t realise that when he used the words “nobody can be trusted” that that clearly included himself. He flatly
refused to consider that maybe his beliefs were the cause of his misery.
Blaming others was and probably still is an easy way out for him.
Most of our problems arise from a resistance to “what is”. No amount of moaning and groaning is going to change what has happened, yet we persist.
“Clear thinking requires courage rather than intelligence.” Thomas Szasz
Baseless Fear
The really sad part about stories like this is that the fear of what you might find out about yourself is greater can be greater than the pain you are actually in.
Ultimately this fear is baseless. What is scary is the fear itself.
These types of reactionary upsets can really stop you succeeding and reduce your productivity whether you are at work or not. But in another sense they are like gold and something to be grateful for because they present wonderful opportunities to gain self-acceptance and bring you more into the present.
I’ll cover a simple way of doing that in my next post.
If this resonates with you why not call me on 0421 210 444 for a short chat? You never know, it may change your life.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
Alan Watts Perspective on Productivity Life and Music
March 21, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Productivity
This video is a beautiful and clever way of looking at how chasing “productivity and success” can be a huge trap that undermines your enjoyment of life.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
John Beeson – Jigsaw Geoscience
March 20, 2009 by coaching
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John explains how he exceeded expectations with his productivity goals and what coaching did for him.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
Great Aussie Patios Mark Harrison
March 12, 2009 by coaching
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Mark Harrison of Great Aussie Patios had lots to say during the middle of his program with James. Improvements in Sales, Time Management and Personal Health have made a big difference to him.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James Bryden.
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
Productivity and The Brain
March 7, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Conditioning
See and hear James as he discusses the concept of “maps” in our brain that have a great influence on our behavior.
Committed to YOUR Personal Productivity,
James Bryden.
James is a productivity coach specializing in working with people who are procrastinators and those who want results quickly. His ability to get brilliant results with his clients is quite amazing…
“Fast Tracking YOUR SUCCESS… SuccessFULL Living!”
To Find Out the “5 Secrets of REALLY Successful People” go to…
P: 0421 210 444
2 Brilliant Tips for Getting the Employees You Want!
February 27, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Recruitment
You Can Save Time, Energy and Money.
Business owners and CEO’s have three extremely valuable BUT LIMITED assets and that’s time, energy and money. The strange thing is that again and again I hear of business owners and senior managers spending their valuable time and energy trying to train their staff to do the right things at the right time to get the right result. Then as the months go by and nothing really changes they realize they are wasting their resources because they have not asked themselves two crucial question and they are:
- How do I know if the employees I am training want to learn and improve?
– How do I know if the employees I am training want to use this knowledge to improve my business or my department?
This is a waste of resources and damages their health that’s guaranteed, there is enough research now to prove that anxiety, stress or anger not only prematurely age you, but they also shorten your life span.
So how do you know if an employee actually wants to learn and improve and how do you know if they actually want to use this knowledge to achieve your business goals?
Answer and tip one: Ensure you check the commitment of an employee during the selection phase by getting them to fill in a rigorous selection criteria.
The Benefit of a Selection Criteria Form is:
A. You will immediately find out whether the applicant is really committed to your position if they can be bothered to fill in the selection criteria and send it back to you. Seven out of ten applicants will not return the selection criteria and this is great because these people are not driven, motivated and committed enough to fill in the form and these people are not the people you want in your business.
B. The selection criteria can collect a lot of objective relevant information about a candidate. This information is directly related to what you need to find out about this person
C. The selection criteria force the applicant to ask themselves. “Do I really want to do this role?”
D. The selection criteria give you great insight about the candidate’s ability to read instructions, understand them, reflect on the content and then comply with your directions. Candidates who fill in the selection criteria are far more likely to achieve results for you than those who can’t find time to fill in the form.
Test Them!
Now how do you know if the employees you are training want to use this knowledge to improve your business or your department?
Answer and tip two: There are some simple but brilliant psychometric tests on the market that clearly show if the candidate you are reviewing or even if an existing employee is truly interested in self improvement. Chet Holmes one of America’s leading sales and marketing guru says:
“You’d be crazy not to use these personality assessment services today,
they are scary accurate and can save you tens of thousands in hiring and management.”
Why waste time, energy and money?
You can now easily find out:
· If the employees YOU are training want to learn and improve?….And
· If the employees YOU are training want to use this knowledge to improve your business?
Committed To Building Your Business With The Right Staff.
Vittorio Natoli – Viva Life Photography
February 23, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Testimonials
Vittorio Natoli, one of Australia’s top photographers with numerous awards explains how a change in perspective has him aiming for at least 20 stores around Australia over the next couple of years.
Productivity and Procrastination
February 21, 2009 by coaching
Filed under Procrastination, Productivity
What is productivity?
The dictionary definition of productivity is; “The ratio of the quantity and quality of units produced to the labor per unit of time”, but the bottom line for any business is profit.
A lot of people suffer from procrastination, and it can be very frustrating. They want to produce. Consciously they want to produce something but for some reason they find themselves doing other things that aren’t as important or are just time wasting. There’s always an excuse and things end up not getting done anywhere near as quickly as they could be, if at all.
Now, the simple fact is that there is plenty of information around on how to improve productivity, lots of tools & tricks, all you need to do is go down the bookstore or go onto the Internet, look it up and you’ll find all sorts of books and products to help you. Time management, prioritizing, delegation and so forth, but that’s not what I’m talking about today.
The Reality
If it was that simple that’s what you would do, you would go off buy a book, read it, put it into practice and all would be done. Procrastination happens when there’s incongruence or an incompatibility between what you consciously think you want to do and what you subconsciously want to do.
Guess what? Unless you are aware, your subconscious will win every time.
But you know that already don’t you?
Your actions betray your real intentions and getting to the bottom of what your real intentions are is something that most people need help with.
Set Goals
It maybe as simple as: Find out what you really want, set some tangible goals and actions around those and then use an effective coaching methodology to make them happen.
To produce effectively, you need to be internally and externally congruent and be really, really clear on what it is that you want and go for it. Having a coach helps you clear up the inevitable roadblocks that will arise along the way.
So there you have it. Simple, but perhaps not very easy without help.
How much is trying to tough it out on your own costing you?