Self Esteem
April 11, 2009 by
Filed under Relationships
This is the fourth post (part 1, part 2, part 3) on how success and productivity can be stymied by emotional reactiveness.
“When you become immobilized by what anybody else thinks of you, what you are saying is that someone else’s opinion of you is more important than your own opinion of yourself.” Dr. Wayne Dyer
I remember being at a function and being introduced to somebody who seemed to look down on me. I sensed sarcasm and that this person felt they were superior.
My feelings were a mixture of feeling inferior and being angry.
Looking Through the Mirror
Looking back on the incident using the mirror it is clear that again, I was seeing something in a person that I did not like about myself. That is, I sometimes behaved in the same way towards other people I considered inferior to me.
Dropping the need to judge others has been a wonderful release for me as I am learning to be more accepting of myself.
Because I have given up blaming people, which is a very destructive form of judgement, I no longer feel the need to forgive anybody for anything. That does not mean I cannot hold them accountable for their actions – I can.
What it does mean is that if I don’t assign blame, I accept that what is, IS. There is nothing and nobody TO forgive.
Looking through the eyes of the mirror I can see that their pain is my pain. They are stuck in their own stuff just as I was. If you are like most other people then you are probably much harder and more judgmental on yourself than you could ever be towards anybody else.
Lunacy
Imagine meeting somebody whom you instantly dislike because you consider them arrogant. The other person sees the same in you and an argument starts over something trivial.
Then you have the sight of two people having a go at each other when all they are really doing is having a go at themselves.
It is bizarre and funny looking at it from this angle but that is what happens.
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